Appreciation and Success are Inter-related
Appreciation can lead to success. I have experienced it too closely. Acknowledgment of your work and efforts is important to make you do it with more focus and will. Teenage is very tender to handle the pressure of appreciation and discouragement too. At the age of 13, my school was changed. My previous school was a place of my intellectual identity. I realized it in my new school. Earlier I used to be in rank holder children of the class. I am not boasting but mostly I came 1st or 2nd in the class. All my work was always done on time or before time also. Each and every teacher loved me. I was their first choice to help them in their daily work at the school. I was the center of the class. My friends used to argue among themselves to sit with me. It became a very big thing for me in my new school where nobody wanted to sit with me. They didn’t want to change their old seat partner with a new student. My old classmates were actually my friends, and they still are. They cared for me and loved me. I was in every play, dance, and activity of the school. I enjoyed being a student at my previous school.
My new school…rather I should say, my new classmates. They were so involved and busy among themselves that they could not see my tears, my loneliness, not even my pain. I longed for my old school so much. Those were the horrible and most lonely days of my life. I wanted to run back to my old school, to my friends and my teachers. I cried and cried for not getting the attention I believed I deserved. I was so quiet and inactivate. It was my weak point though that I couldn’t mix with them. It was me too who was not taking my step toward them. This was all due to that first day of mine in that new school and that class. As people say the first impression is the last impression, which became all true for me. There was a time when my classmates wanted to sit with me always. There were turns of my friends to sit with me on particular weekdays. Here I was made to change my seat 4 different times as nobody was ready to sit with a new student. They wanted to be with their old friends only. I sat in the last seat that too alone that day. It was heartbreaking for me and a shame to be not wanted by anyone. I was brutally tortured. I started looking down at myself. It shook my self-confidence. I couldn’t respond to teachers here like I used to do in my previous school. All things, studies, big buildings, and teachers were in the background for me. This whole trauma affected my performance and marks also during that year. The insult I felt become the epic center of my life at that time. I was haunted day and night by it for the whole year.
This all ruin my two years of school life. Though after one year I tried to collect myself and my confidence. I tried to adapt to that atmosphere of unfriendly people and somehow clear the 2nd clear also with them. Throughout, there was only one shoulder I had to hold on to, one hand to hold, and one person to sit with, she was Pallavi Tomar. She was very nice to me. The only friend I had. Two years, she was the one with me, who made it a bit easy for me to spend those two years.
Then, the whole atmosphere changes with a new session of the 11th class in the commerce section. It became a new session of my life. There were about 70% of new students in the class. I got what I deserved and needed, Appreciation. In the new class with the new teachers and classmates, I got the friendly atmosphere I aspire for. I read and learn with interest and got back the respect in the eyes of teachers. Even the few classmates, who were from the previous class were shocked to see my performance, sense of humor, my responses to teachers in the class. They said they didn’t know I was so capable. But I knew what I can do, that is why I was under depression during those two years. But now, I was again the center of the class, the favorite of the teachers. I got the best marks in my 12th board exams. My picture came in the newspaper for getting the highest percentage in the commerce section.
I realized during those days that a few words of love and appreciation are very important in one’s life. I made sure from that experience of my life that no one would feel alone in my presence. Not in my class as a student, or a teacher, not my colleagues during my job, and not in my family. I believe in spreading love and motivation to enable the person to reach the heights one deserves. it becomes easy to reach success when you have someone to guide you with positive words. When you get words of appreciation for doing something good, you get motivation for doing even better in life. it can enable you to reach success and satisfaction too.
I wish you all also to do well in life. and if possible do become someone’s Pallavi Tomar to help him/her to have some hope and help in life.
